What is it with sick white boys?

What is it with sick white boys? Their mental health is dominated with macho, bullying and revenge for real or perceived insults to their manhood.  They feel it necessary to be violent to get respect. They will challenge anyone who suggests they need help.

The glory of violence is in our face every day and is the accepted option offered to our children daily. Look at all the heroes we offer up to our children.  Before WWII it was cowboys and Indians and frontier wars with well-defined good and bad guys. After WWII it was the GI Joe mentality.  Again, there was a clear distinction between the good guys and bad guys.  After the internal revolution of the 1960s, the line between good and bad became more and more blurred with the spread of drugs.  Some heroes were drug dealers, some heroes were those fighting drug dealers. Then the James Bond era identified the good guys as glorified hit men with kick ass toys and beautiful women jumping into bed. The bad guys, bent on world domination, also had kick ass toys and beautiful women.  They also had some really scary henchmen.

Today, in a world running out of fuel, water and food the heroes are killing and maiming in sick wars around the world.  The heroes are not the Doctors and Rescuers, but they are the Black Ops Mercenaries who go to world hot spots and kill and maim indiscriminately.

This puts a lot of pressure on today’s young white male to be accepted by his peers.  When acceptance fails, young men go through a very traumatic psychological transition into revenge mindset.

They feel it necessary to disrespect girls calling them bitches.

They resent any discipline that accompanies education, whether it is at home or school.

They must show their peers they are tough and aren’t afraid to hurt or kill someone or something.

They feel repressed.  Who? What? Why do these sensitive young men feel repressed and disrespected?

What kind of peer pressure are these young men really exposed too?

Quote Mr Rogers “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

Who are those helpers? When a family or caregiver is too embarrassed to reach out, nothing is done for the one who needs help.  Don’t admit to anyone there is a problem … you don’t want anything like that on your record …

Yes, there are other ethnic groups that use firearms to kill and maim.  There are always gangs and cartels who use guns as a tool in their daily business of drug distribution. That is a sick business model, but it has a business purpose similar to Black Ops Mercenaries.  It is profit driven.

Mental Health is just that. It should be part of everyday concern, just like eating right and getting physical exercise and visiting the doctor when you are sick.  America’s social system is very backward when it comes to mental health in general.  The undercurrent is a stigma imposed by communities of churches and schools. You are told that anything on your record that implies any mental health problems will follow you throughout your life and prevent you from getting some jobs.  That is what America is up against.  Don’t admit you need help, because it will mess up your future ability to get a job.  Don’t admit you need help because it will make you suspect in social circles.   Don’t admit you need help, because it will affect the social status of you family … America has done this to itself.

You hear horror stories of children being held in closets and basements for years … because they may show signs of unusual behavior.  Seeking mental health help is never considered by a dysfunctional family.  In America, it is the outward appearance that rules how we treat each other and how we survive in a materialistic culture.  Keeping up with the Jones mindset means you have perfect children.

We are all the product of multiple influences on our lives from the time we are born.  When we enter adolescence, the pressures and trauma of becoming social creatures is magnified. This is where a dysfunctional childhood can push someone into violence out of frustration.  Acting out to spite whoever and whatever is perceived to be causing the personal trauma.  Hate and vengeance can fill the voids in the hearts and minds of frustrated and alienated children. A frustrated person with a social issues that has access to any weapon is dangerous.  A dangerous person that has access to firearms can hurt many people at one time.  When that dangerous person has a firearm and wants to lash out, available targets most often don’t even know that person and have no idea they are random targets of unaddressed mental illness. Unaddressed mental illness breeds terror-ism!

Until America outgrows it’s concept that mental health should be locked away in the closet or basement, and, until America decides that mental health is just that HEALTH!  Denial will provide horrific entertainment in the media until there is no one left to watch the commercials.

Until America outgrows it’s concept that mental health attention is something to be avoided and hidden away and lied about, there will be horrible acts against living things. Hate is a mental health issue.  When someone hates themselves, everyone is a target!

My heart goes out to all the loved ones who have experienced losses as a consequence of America’s denial-ism.

America’s Affordable Health Care Act should be used to assist Mental Health Treatment for anyone who needs it. But, it has to become socially acceptable to seek help!

I have written about Mental Health negligence before:

2012/08/24/do-you-feel-better-it-wasnt-terrorism/

2012/05/17/lessons-of-the-weeping-camel-for-texas/

2012/07/20/i-have-a-gun-and-i-have-a-grudge/

2012/05/06/afghanistan-cheap-drugs-and-soldiers-vietnam-and-denial/

2012/05/23/when-they-come-home-critical-update/

2009/04/02/no-insurance-meds-denied-mayhem-and-murder-op-ed/

2009/08/22/bi-polar-america-who-is-worthy-of-a-healthy-life-and-who-is-not/

2007/12/01/hostage-crisis-or-mental-health-crisis-%E2%80%93-op-ed/

2008/12/06/critical-state-of-american-health/

2008/08/05/your-profile-determines-your-insurability-but-inmates-get-free-health-care/

2008/12/07/us-health-care-plunges-texas-drops-9-points/

Mr. Rogers was very insightful:

You know, you don’t have to look like everybody else to be acceptable and to feel acceptable.

How sad it is that we give up on people who are just like us.

Parents are like shuttles on a loom. They join the threads of the past with threads of the future and leave their own bright patterns as they go.

Knowing that we can be loved exactly as we are gives us all the best opportunity for growing into the healthiest of people.